tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post5693747807763944950..comments2023-10-15T04:23:50.187-04:00Comments on College Misery: This Week's Big Thirsty: Wiinston from Washington Wants to Know About Nookie.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger21125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-87646006524835594722012-10-27T20:07:18.648-04:002012-10-27T20:07:18.648-04:00Well said, Frankiebow. And New England Natalie.
...Well said, Frankiebow. And New England Natalie.<br /><br />In my grad department, at least five male professors were connected to at least eight female grad students in rumor or in fact (and, in one case, at the hip). The numbers don't add up because of multiple pair-ups.<br /><br />All were adults, and most were single. Morale among the other women grads was low and bitter. We brought up Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02906546940408742913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-89486303433286236022012-10-26T02:43:08.817-04:002012-10-26T02:43:08.817-04:00Even if there isn't a question of consent or c...Even if there isn't a question of consent or coercion, and even if there's no possible perception of favoritism, doing this has an effect on the working environment for everyone. You've now made a professor-student hookup a real possibility in your department. Students will think twice before going to a professor's office, and will feel uncomfortable when they do. <br /><br />So Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-83697224056620494932012-10-25T21:53:23.921-04:002012-10-25T21:53:23.921-04:00All's fair in love and war.All's fair in love and war.<br /><br />Southern Bubba, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12050992903794385204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-18470440296280341062012-10-25T19:59:10.941-04:002012-10-25T19:59:10.941-04:00Rishathra is only for highly ritualized situations...<a href="http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Rishathra" rel="nofollow">Rishathra</a> is only for highly ritualized situations. Like a thesis defense.introvert.profhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09042783611716432247noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-4826842365478911962012-10-25T15:56:27.067-04:002012-10-25T15:56:27.067-04:00But it feels so good!But it feels so good!The Naughty Professorhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11234624349205271144noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-5096892600931038422012-10-25T15:33:52.341-04:002012-10-25T15:33:52.341-04:00I do not support the quoting of any work from this...I do not support the quoting of any work from this blogger unless we give it full credit. It's from Dr. Crazy's blog "Reassigned Time" at reassignedtime.wordpress.com. (Her blog provides instructions for giving credit.)<br /><br />She has assured us, and we take her at her word, that she is NOT Katie from Kalamazoo.<br />College Miseryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01371354682300032653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-8848380413429430172012-10-25T14:46:58.932-04:002012-10-25T14:46:58.932-04:00As a graduate student, had I found out one of my c...As a graduate student, had I found out one of my cohort was sleeping with a professor who had any connection to the department, I would have resented her/him and been a lot less inclined to help them in any way shape or fashion. <br /><br />And I'd loose all respect for the professor. No matter what the rules said.New England Nataliehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01035798065496710431noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-33243588774531056012012-10-25T13:54:51.827-04:002012-10-25T13:54:51.827-04:00I'm going to do with Stella and CC's view ...I'm going to do with Stella and CC's view here - your buddy is on verrryyyy thin ice. Trod carefully.<br />This type of stress usually isn't worth it in the end.Prof Poopieheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00997969128824319914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-3054106489104817392012-10-25T13:29:42.731-04:002012-10-25T13:29:42.731-04:00don't fish off the company pier??don't fish off the company pier??Middle-Aged and Morosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04046076243513948921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-67138341215042338412012-10-25T12:05:33.245-04:002012-10-25T12:05:33.245-04:00One comment increased my vocabulary just by 1.7%.One comment increased my vocabulary just by 1.7%.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-55668253899701102602012-10-25T11:45:28.190-04:002012-10-25T11:45:28.190-04:00I've got to go with Tony Soprano on this one: ...I've got to go with Tony Soprano on this one: Don't shit where you eat. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-81141752851370605782012-10-25T11:44:10.591-04:002012-10-25T11:44:10.591-04:00based solely on the details you gave, and baring a...based solely on the details you gave, and baring any other relevant details, my initial reaction is "consenting adults, MYOB." Middle-Aged and Morosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04046076243513948921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-1956713976874074462012-10-25T11:27:58.503-04:002012-10-25T11:27:58.503-04:00My reaction is similar to Stella's: these are ...My reaction is similar to Stella's: these are somewhat treacherous waters, exploitation is possible, and things could go spectacularly bad, or very well. <br /><br />I also wonder what sort of grad program the student is in, since she's become a grad student at her undergrad institution: that's far more common for someone who's doing a terminal M.A. in preparation for moving on Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-10619516189652538282012-10-25T10:38:24.477-04:002012-10-25T10:38:24.477-04:00Sorry to be the serious old man here, but choosing...Sorry to be the serious old man here, but choosing to use the word nookie confuses for me what might a serious question about students and teachers. Slang from the 1920s, the word nookie for sexual intercourse comes from the slang nookie for a woman who is considered a sexual object. A teacher "getting nookie" is what Darla says: skeevy. Teachers and students "dating" is a TubaPlayingProfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06524484569241433720noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-67936564728330832662012-10-25T10:05:59.599-04:002012-10-25T10:05:59.599-04:00While not technically about nookie, Katie from Kal...While not technically about nookie, Katie from Kalamazoo (on her "real" pseudonymous blog) is going on again at length about her student/friend, the one celebrated in this <a href="http://rateyourstudents.blogspot.com/2010/01/katie-from-kalamazoo-has-got-real-life_667.html" rel="nofollow">amazing post</a>.<br /><br />While not as breathless, Katie does manage to squeeze in a dozen Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-58177806687525704912012-10-25T09:49:48.615-04:002012-10-25T09:49:48.615-04:00Remember the guy rule: there's no such thing a...Remember the guy rule: there's no such thing as bad sex. Sarcastic Bastardhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01407507896787403097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-87165548419854363192012-10-25T09:41:15.309-04:002012-10-25T09:41:15.309-04:00Maybe not bad, but generally improper so long as t...Maybe not bad, but generally improper so long as the student is still a student in that department or program. It raises the specter of favoritism: will other graduate students think that the student in question is receiving special treatment because of this status? That can be bad for moral. But that's only a general rule, I think. Regardless, the pair should be discrete while on campus--no Doctor BPDhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15077311480386412339noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-27540451917302649752012-10-25T08:46:48.797-04:002012-10-25T08:46:48.797-04:00Well, I can't say it's bad because I know ...Well, I can't say it's bad because I know many academic couples with flourishing, happy marriages who met when one of them was a student and the other a professor. And not just a grad school professor. Also, I know of many academic marriages that started that way and went sour. But no more went sour than usually do.<br /><br />I think the key aspect of this question is the "nookieStellafromSparksburghttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17584701718285662953noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-61742889540635514352012-10-25T08:44:48.259-04:002012-10-25T08:44:48.259-04:00It doesn't matter how cute you try to make you...It doesn't matter how cute you try to make your language. Banging students is skeevy.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-21824215333532434872012-10-25T07:54:16.815-04:002012-10-25T07:54:16.815-04:00Nookie is like pizza: even when it's bad, it&#...Nookie is like pizza: even when it's bad, it's good.<br /><br />Seriously, though: different universities have widely different rules. At mine, it is not illegal for faculty to have relationships with students, IF the faculty is not in a position to write a recommendation for the student. <br /><br />This rule strikes me as absurd, however. I can and have written recommendations for Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-5713384201919914362012-10-25T07:40:19.373-04:002012-10-25T07:40:19.373-04:00Way I like to think of it: Proffies and students i...Way I like to think of it: Proffies and students in general are different species. And bestiality is bad. Same goes for Grad Students in relation to undergrads.<br /><br />Your mileage may vary.The Mad Dreamerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10104841422695591759noreply@blogger.com