tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post6996135356950710318..comments2023-10-15T04:23:50.187-04:00Comments on College Misery: If it looks too good to be true .... important life lessonsUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-72347569858045079722012-08-30T21:04:19.652-04:002012-08-30T21:04:19.652-04:00And the "Peaches" post is, indeed, memor...And the "Peaches" post is, indeed, memorable (though I find myself wondering a bit about the husband and his coping strategies. We don't hear what options he had, or tried, but it does sound like there might have been a bit of a blame-the-relationship dynamic going on there). Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-43520150642465817522012-08-30T20:59:47.849-04:002012-08-30T20:59:47.849-04:00Okay, the "maybe you should move out" co...Okay, the "maybe you should move out" comment sounds a little less awful in that context -- it could have been sort of an emotional preemptive strike against being "abandoned" for the new job. It's still not good behavior, but I can see it being part of negotiating the whole business of how committed you are to each other, and to the relationship, and dealing with a lot ofContingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-20381635780624348802012-08-30T17:52:39.075-04:002012-08-30T17:52:39.075-04:00Thanks all for the kind words and support. I reall...Thanks all for the kind words and support. I really appreciate it.<br /><br />I found the RYS article I was thinking of: http://rateyourstudents.blogspot.com/2009/08/what-does-it-cost-peaches-from-petaluma_6366.html<br /><br />It still sticks a nerve and sticks in my memory, even though I read it years ago.<br /><br />I'm not quite rudderless. I'm working on a new job angle, and that'Maybellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01470091893270064951noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-59211445171712650002012-08-30T16:46:50.896-04:002012-08-30T16:46:50.896-04:00P.S. If you can teach yourself to code something ...P.S. If you can teach yourself to code something on the LMS in a few hours using resources found on the internet, that sounds like a lead on possible alternate/future careers. In the meantime, if you decide you want to stick it out in your current town a bit longer, is there any way to parlay the emails you exchanged with your chair into a recommendation for a job in the IT or learning-support Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-92195581120522533602012-08-30T16:43:05.552-04:002012-08-30T16:43:05.552-04:00Oh, Maybelle. I'm so sorry. Unfortunately, I ...Oh, Maybelle. I'm so sorry. Unfortunately, I have to join others in saying that much of the treatment you've experienced as an adjunct is pretty much par for the course (I'd second Bison's list of negative experiences as well). I can also say that I've observed (but not experienced -- at least not yet, though I'm keenly aware of the possibility) long-time full-time Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-66710805873716617172012-08-30T10:12:45.762-04:002012-08-30T10:12:45.762-04:00One quick note: you owe this institution nothing. ...One quick note: you owe this institution nothing. If you can't afford to finish out the semester teaching that single section, then dump them. The worst that can happen is that you don't get a good letter of recommendation from them... but it sounds like that wasn't something that was going to happen anyway. There is no goodwill to lose in this case.<br /><br />Yes, your students Three Sigmahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10822893039310439770noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-79257032704926740492012-08-30T08:49:16.973-04:002012-08-30T08:49:16.973-04:00Second that! Hang in there, Maybelle.Second that! Hang in there, Maybelle.Edna Expathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11438002061912782295noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-61229389204212977602012-08-30T04:40:41.841-04:002012-08-30T04:40:41.841-04:00@Maybelle: I am sorry this happened to you. I know...@Maybelle: I am sorry this happened to you. I know the feeling all too well, having been feasted upon plenty myself by bloodsucking university administrators as an Accursed Visiting Assistant Professor. It bites. And sucks.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-4115458589819753162012-08-30T00:09:25.183-04:002012-08-30T00:09:25.183-04:00This stinks. I am so sorry. :(This stinks. I am so sorry. :(CrayonEaterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10126396989880932207noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-6227887896969353652012-08-29T21:19:06.869-04:002012-08-29T21:19:06.869-04:00Maybelle,
You deserve better.
Maybelle,<br />You deserve better.<br /><br />Southern Bubba, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12050992903794385204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-20258307877045700622012-08-29T20:27:12.192-04:002012-08-29T20:27:12.192-04:00Yeah, I'm with you on this. My problem is tha...Yeah, I'm with you on this. My problem is that my faculty colleagues are the ones bragging about this.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-80547284203369978102012-08-29T19:02:26.241-04:002012-08-29T19:02:26.241-04:00OMG the next person in my department to giggle abo...OMG the next person in my department to giggle about how proud they are to get away with avoiding technology is going to get SMACKED in the back of the head.<br /><br />Our department recently had to fire half the supportive staff for budget cuts. The two secretaries that remain PROUDLY refer to how much they hate computers and how little they know about "an" internet in the department Academic Monkeyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07086078244493768565noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-11011545754407078632012-08-29T18:35:53.417-04:002012-08-29T18:35:53.417-04:00I am sorry Maybelle for this sucky situation.I am sorry Maybelle for this sucky situation.Dream-Killerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10899352252923649504noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-30756948486897525382012-08-29T16:08:49.511-04:002012-08-29T16:08:49.511-04:00That's awful. So sorry, Maybelle.That's awful. So sorry, Maybelle.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16403289509523215570noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-80042970145563034982012-08-29T15:58:12.289-04:002012-08-29T15:58:12.289-04:00Shit, Maybelle, that's awful. I hope that clas...Shit, Maybelle, that's awful. I hope that class keeps going well for you and can be a bright spot if things continue being horrible (of course, I hope they don't).The Magical Realisthttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14069059368113533234noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-90126430897569135742012-08-29T15:50:42.296-04:002012-08-29T15:50:42.296-04:00Ohhhh, Maybelle, this hurts to read. I wish I had...Ohhhh, Maybelle, this hurts to read. I wish I had something to offer besides sympathy. This sentence was telling: "it was suggested that maybe it would be better if I moved out." The passive voice is perhaps to protect your Other Half from seeming like a complete asshole for making a "suggestion" when you don't have the income to survive on your own where you've Frog and Toadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06377542172335502858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-91370494518586110772012-08-29T14:49:40.883-04:002012-08-29T14:49:40.883-04:00Hey Maybelle, really sorry to hear. Having very r...Hey Maybelle, really sorry to hear. Having very recently also chosen a relationship over steady employment, I really empathize. On the personal front, I don't think I have any good answers for you, other than if things are salvageable (and you want to salvage them) then give it a hard try. But If not, then don't throw good effort after bad effort.<br /><br />On the professional front, Bisonhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02025209722326662833noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-68346104344836846782012-08-29T14:39:56.729-04:002012-08-29T14:39:56.729-04:00That sucks. I'm sorry this is happening to you...That sucks. I'm sorry this is happening to you. :(Snarky Writerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04196509615328045888noreply@blogger.com