tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post7818048596564039386..comments2023-10-15T04:23:50.187-04:00Comments on College Misery: Some things you can't discuss with even the most divinely snarky colleagues. From Curly.Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-73030669618287545742016-05-29T09:51:00.633-04:002016-05-29T09:51:00.633-04:00Totally with you on this, PP.
I really hope I con...Totally with you on this, PP.<br /><br />I really hope I control my face when this student either does something great or something dumb (much like my son, he rarely stays anonymously near the mean of any group). I can't recuse myself from teaching this guy, but I wonder what the hell anyone makes of my face as we interact.EC1https://www.blogger.com/profile/13414931249618049097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-6436587678039800172016-05-28T23:01:18.322-04:002016-05-28T23:01:18.322-04:00EC1, that reminds of my own situation: I have a st...EC1, that reminds of my own situation: I have a student who would be the doppleganger of my best friend since university (and we're old enough that our oldest sons are only several years away from university themselves). When I see him on campus I feel like going up and giving him a long solid heartfelt hug and some strong claps on the shoulders while I'm saying "hey man, how's Prof Poopieheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00997969128824319914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-21792379090504767342016-05-27T18:57:23.941-04:002016-05-27T18:57:23.941-04:00What could I offer a student? Very little, unless ...What could I offer a student? Very little, unless they had an unhealthy interest in a Marty Feldman lookalike.<br />On the site that shall remain nameless, the only flora I am likely to acquire is a durian.<br /><br />Not a crush on a student, but I have a guy now who is so similar to my son. Disconcertingly, he moves the same way, and has many of the same little quirks. It’s really odd (for me) EC1https://www.blogger.com/profile/13414931249618049097noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-80497801658872243082016-05-27T09:21:56.752-04:002016-05-27T09:21:56.752-04:00At my first tenure-track job, I was preparing for ...At my first tenure-track job, I was preparing for my first graduate class, and a woman knocked on my office door. She asked where my suite mate might be. She was in a word stunning. Near my age, a grad student I assumed. <br /><br />I saw her an hour later--when I walked into my classroom. And from that moment, she was my student. <br /><br />Once a student a person should only be that. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-72767911740289337182016-05-26T08:23:47.412-04:002016-05-26T08:23:47.412-04:00I would be lying if I claim to have never noticed,...I would be lying if I claim to have never noticed, at least once in a long while, the charms of one of my students. But I've done so more in the sense that I've seen beauty in a Renoir or Monet; to borrow from Ray Davies of The Kinks, I'm an art lover. It never goes beyond the briefest distraction, in part because of thought processes that I'll try to recreate now.<br /><br />WhatOgre Proctor Hephttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17428431147495287413noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-78619073994536570142016-05-25T18:44:38.903-04:002016-05-25T18:44:38.903-04:00not since I was a grad student in my 20s. not since I was a grad student in my 20s. Middle-Aged and Morosehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04046076243513948921noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-52032165243085355832016-05-25T10:14:55.851-04:002016-05-25T10:14:55.851-04:00This was the first thing I thought of, too. The v...This was the first thing I thought of, too. The vets. <br /><br />I don't think I've ever had a crush on a student, but there have certainly been the students who have made me <i>much</i> more excited and happier to go to class. They can be so interesting. In my experience, they have been the vets, the older students, and the students who had previous careers in other countries. In Southern Bubba, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12050992903794385204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-48073088033694619872016-05-25T08:50:12.564-04:002016-05-25T08:50:12.564-04:00A classic.
Historiann regularly takes on why we...A classic. <br /><br />Historiann regularly takes on why we just shouldn't go there, including in <a href="https://historiann.com/2016/05/23/more-advice-on-faculty-student-sexual-relationships-just-dont/#more-26714" rel="nofollow">this recent post</a>. <br /><br />Of course, admitting that we're sometimes tempted to go there and actually going there are two very different things. Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-64516233371707092082016-05-25T08:44:38.994-04:002016-05-25T08:44:38.994-04:00When I first became a full time prof, I had a rece...When I first became a full time prof, I had a recent combat veteran in my literature class. He was young and handsome and interesting and mature and very smart. He definitely caught my eye, so I ignored him all semester. However, toward the end of the year, he took a shine to me, and would stay after to chat. On the last day of class, he brought photos of his time in Iraq, and stayed a long Bellahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15686242633678466958noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-74689373045405635372016-05-25T04:48:43.528-04:002016-05-25T04:48:43.528-04:00There have been multiple people request I share th...There have been multiple people request I share <a href="http://rateyourstudents.blogspot.com/2009/02/doug-from-daytona-and-shame-of-sundress_5079.html" rel="nofollow">this link with the original poster</a>.College Miseryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01371354682300032653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-5252808479229962762016-05-25T02:58:49.502-04:002016-05-25T02:58:49.502-04:00I had a student once who never registered on my ra...I had a student once who never registered on my radar. Then something I taught in class lit that fire inside him. He was a graduating senior and I somehow (miraculously!) made him think about the importance of his future profession in a way that his own professors-in-his-major had not.<br /><br />He was a very good student, but several of his classmates had been distracting me all term with Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-8027733656186101512016-05-25T01:08:17.140-04:002016-05-25T01:08:17.140-04:00When I was a student, I had a MASSIVE crush on my ...When I was a student, I had a MASSIVE crush on my comp-lit professor. I therefore actually read all those great works of Western lit, especially her specialty, Dante.<br /><br />As far as students go, naaaah...I go for the intelligent types, you know?Froderick Frankenstien from Fresnohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11653942918068535424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-33739679164357285522016-05-25T00:07:13.090-04:002016-05-25T00:07:13.090-04:00I had a student in my 4th yr class that sure as he...I had a student in my 4th yr class that sure as heckfire looked like my wife looked 20 years ago when we were both still uni students.<br />I sure as heckfire was glad when that semester was over and the student graduated.Prof Poopieheadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00997969128824319914noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-54990916444683108102016-05-24T20:30:45.334-04:002016-05-24T20:30:45.334-04:00A vague sense that, had we met in other circumstan...A vague sense that, had we met in other circumstances, I might possibly have found this person attractive? A few times. Anything resembling a real crush? Not really. Students, by definition, tend to come in herds, and it takes substantial one-on-one, or at least very small-group, time for me to be attracted to someone. There are some downsides to the fact that I don't really deal all thatContingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.com