tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post9218880837758035257..comments2023-10-15T04:23:50.187-04:00Comments on College Misery: Maybelle, she thirsty!Unknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger34125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-88001345375786526922013-03-29T19:26:04.813-04:002013-03-29T19:26:04.813-04:00The_Myth:
I guess in my case, people seemed obses...The_Myth:<br /><br />I guess in my case, people seemed obsessed about my private life and my "ambiguous" status. I even had a twerp ask me in class why I wasn't married. I quickly put him in his place by telling him that if that was a marriage proposal, I'd have to disappoint him because he was out of luck. He turned so red he could have been used as a traffic light.<br /><brAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-40829431119200227402013-03-29T17:39:32.694-04:002013-03-29T17:39:32.694-04:00I got called a stupid little bitch to my face, onc...I got called a stupid little bitch to my face, once. And, not to feed the troll, but I did tell the student she was never to set foot in my office again.Frog and Toadhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06377542172335502858noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-24083620231024715552013-03-29T17:36:04.530-04:002013-03-29T17:36:04.530-04:00CouldBeBetter, The_Myth, No Longer, CC, and, well,...CouldBeBetter, The_Myth, No Longer, CC, and, well, pretty much everyone: what naked and ignorant displays of privilege are being described here. We can to a point feel sorry for them - they know they aren't the ones with power in this particular interaction, since we, not they, are at the front of the class - but the ways they choose to object are just vile.Merely Academichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00452389428113097744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-55310897679605004882013-03-29T17:24:38.302-04:002013-03-29T17:24:38.302-04:00I've wondered about this myself. As a fat woma...I've wondered about this myself. As a fat woman, I'm fully aware that everything I do takes place in a sociocultural context in which I'm presupposed to be lazy/stupid/greedy/bad-adjective-of-your-choice. Pretty decent evals, but again, nothing stellar, in spite of the enormous effort I put in and the highly enthusiastic feedback of colleagues who have done teaching observations for CouldBeBetterhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17494567309967997639noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-14541677374948037742013-03-29T14:43:47.096-04:002013-03-29T14:43:47.096-04:00I don't think I've ever been called a name...I don't think I've ever been called a name to my face (or even on a student eval., though I've gotten a few pretty vitriolic comments on those, most of which boil down to "she grades too hard/assigns too much work"). I think it might be an upside of being someone who looks like she should be a nurturing mommy/grandmommy/brings-cookies type, and is, in fact, a rather Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-32246947910590292042013-03-29T14:34:53.094-04:002013-03-29T14:34:53.094-04:00Well, since different people are distracted by dif...Well, since different people are distracted by different things, I would say that judgment provided more information about the distractee than the (supposed) distractor. <br /><br />But no, of course, not acceptable. Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-31710165887983533252013-03-29T14:30:24.830-04:002013-03-29T14:30:24.830-04:00Indeed. Also, if your students are anything like t...Indeed. Also, if your students are anything like the EMTs and firefighters I've taught, you've got an unusually responsible, decent, community-minded bunch. Not surprisingly (and thank goodness!) those are professions (or even volunteer positions) that seem to attract some very solid citizens. Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-57234865173712936982013-03-29T14:03:37.044-04:002013-03-29T14:03:37.044-04:00How about being referred to as so "flaming ho...How about being referred to as so "flaming homosexual that it's distracting"?<br /><br />We can get such charmers in our classrooms.The_Mythhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10621186404597424842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-62493615275793819732013-03-29T14:01:56.061-04:002013-03-29T14:01:56.061-04:00Troll. Never feed it.Troll. Never feed it.The_Mythhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/10621186404597424842noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-84880546506440716132013-03-29T13:13:49.314-04:002013-03-29T13:13:49.314-04:00It is always hard not to take the bait when someon...It is always hard not to take the bait when someone's being an asshole.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11456709721074826943noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-43133920127346764862013-03-29T07:40:07.721-04:002013-03-29T07:40:07.721-04:00Monica and Merely, I'd ask that you let this o...Monica and Merely, I'd ask that you let this one go. Several readers have noted that one of you is clearly baiting the other, and that the other has taken the bait. College Miseryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01371354682300032653noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-57796831508146255622013-03-29T03:29:17.687-04:002013-03-29T03:29:17.687-04:00Not really. Some professors would simply move on b...Not really. Some professors would simply move on but then, maybe the student would have been invited to talk to the professor after class or even to somebody else (department chair, Dean of Students, etc.).Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103879727877816655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-48614946733625345042013-03-29T03:22:57.823-04:002013-03-29T03:22:57.823-04:00I'm sure you can figure this out for yourself....I'm sure you can figure this out for yourself.Merely Academichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00452389428113097744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-88975157532352081892013-03-29T03:04:23.072-04:002013-03-29T03:04:23.072-04:00What would have happened if, after being reprimand...What would have happened if, after being reprimanded, the student apologized instead of calling the professor an asshole? Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103879727877816655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-88221526548114326282013-03-29T02:57:31.891-04:002013-03-29T02:57:31.891-04:00Several members of my department are gay. Several...Several members of my department are gay. Several of my students are gay that I know of. Being gay, or rumoured to be gay, isn't a problem in these parts; I am sorry it is (or was) where you were teaching. Merely Academichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00452389428113097744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-13920917887425465612013-03-29T02:54:41.486-04:002013-03-29T02:54:41.486-04:00I know there is no point engaging here, but I cann...I know there is no point engaging here, but I cannot help myself. <br /><br />Any instructor has a right to eject from a classroom a student that is behaving disrespectfully to the instructor or to any other person in the class. This creates an atmosphere that is not conducive to learning, and learning is what the class is for. It is what all the students are paying for the chance to do, and Merely Academichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00452389428113097744noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-46384099351090524692013-03-29T02:20:29.775-04:002013-03-29T02:20:29.775-04:00What does "professionally but sternly" r...What does "professionally but sternly" really mean? I realize that you may not be able to remember the exact wording.<br /><br />Now, of course, you don't have to justify yourself. However, it does seem rather odd that a student would call you such a name. Maybe he's a very sensitive person and he found your reprimand excessively harsh. You must have hurt his feelings. It is Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103879727877816655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-70787799050100662832013-03-29T01:52:22.980-04:002013-03-29T01:52:22.980-04:00He was asked to leave to make a point, to show him...He was asked to leave to make a point, to show him and the other students that bad behavior has consequences. I don't need any further justification. Verbal harassment of a fellow student is not acceptable. Not even once. BECAUSE it was only once, he wasn't withdrawn from the course, though I let him know via email that would happen if he did it again.<br /><br />The right to expel Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-53304743430437493292013-03-29T01:35:06.496-04:002013-03-29T01:35:06.496-04:00If he apologized, why did he still have to leave? ...If he apologized, why did he still have to leave? Did he miss anything really important? In my opinion, he had paid for the class and he was not dangerous, so he should have been permitted to remain in the room, at the very least, if not even to continue to participate in the discussion. If you didn't think an apology was enough, you should have reported this as a disciplinary issue. In fact,Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103879727877816655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-19363820675851165692013-03-28T22:10:15.381-04:002013-03-28T22:10:15.381-04:00I try to remind myself that these people are suffe...I try to remind myself that these people are suffering and that they've probably endured considerable abuse. Nevertheless, I still have to "cry on someone's shoulder" after I get an insult. Every once in a while, someone will hit my Achilles' Heel, and then I feel like flying into a rage. But I always keep my composure because, more than anything, I just pity those peopleSouthern Bubba, Ph.D.https://www.blogger.com/profile/12050992903794385204noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-6720063279126766022013-03-28T21:16:37.886-04:002013-03-28T21:16:37.886-04:00I've heard that students call me a bitch behin...I've heard that students call me a bitch behind my back, but to my face, the worst things a plagiarizing student called me was "fucking racist bitch" when I called him on plagiarism.The Contemplative Cynichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02088570661592922436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-9886491222579965942013-03-28T20:24:22.820-04:002013-03-28T20:24:22.820-04:00While I was teaching, word somehow got to the stud...While I was teaching, word somehow got to the students that I never married, I lived alone, and I wasn't dating anyone. Guess what I got called a few times? ("He's how old and still single?")<br /><br />Unfortunately, I strongly suspect one of my colleagues was the source of the information. He not only spilled the beans but distorted the facts to deliberately destroy my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-6234936813029977492013-03-28T18:23:16.573-04:002013-03-28T18:23:16.573-04:00Of course you're "really a teacher."...Of course you're "really a teacher." If your fire academy students aren't learning, then we're all in a big heap o' trouble.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02906546940408742913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-74022961669872481202013-03-28T15:13:29.393-04:002013-03-28T15:13:29.393-04:00My RL last name is shared with an internationally ...My RL last name is shared with an internationally loved commercial entity, so most names students call me derive from that.Lucy, Countess of Bedfordhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07181713706519539554noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-64808433985346338522013-03-28T14:55:21.675-04:002013-03-28T14:55:21.675-04:00I once had a student who called another kid an &qu...I once had a student who called another kid an "idiot" during discussion and, when I reprimanded him for it, called me an "asshole."<br /><br />I calmly put my hand on the emergency phone at the front of the classroom (goes directly to security when you pick it up) and told him he had two choices: he could apologize to me and to his fellow student and then leave quietly and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com