tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post3550448293540504106..comments2023-10-15T04:23:50.187-04:00Comments on College Misery: Breakups and DramaUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger13125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-29049400220943286652015-01-27T21:03:07.056-05:002015-01-27T21:03:07.056-05:00This is the kind of story that, first and most of ...This is the kind of story that, first and most of all, makes me profoundly grateful that it didn't happen to me, since dealing with suddenly-erupting high drama in an effective way is *not* my forte. <br /><br />With the luxury of distance, I agree with Monica that calling the campus police might not have been a bad idea, because it would over two bases: (1) Sally really did have reason to Contingent Cassandrahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08161652083031423415noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-90552193456062067322015-01-27T13:54:18.784-05:002015-01-27T13:54:18.784-05:00Hmm, good point. I just chalked it up to her gener...Hmm, good point. I just chalked it up to her general dramatic persona and immature behavior, in general. Silly and Sally seem to be acting out a romance for the world: i.e. they seem to think they're SUPPOSED to behave in this manner because this is how people in love act.The Contemplative Cynichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02088570661592922436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-11583432390670088802015-01-27T09:03:14.085-05:002015-01-27T09:03:14.085-05:00That would be as out of line as deciding that she ...That would be as out of line as deciding that she must be bipolar, cyclothymic or have a Borderline Personality Disorder (a very realistic possibility, actually). Normally, the professor could simply encourage her to get psychiatric help or counseling or else some authority such as the Dean of Students could actually require it as a condition for her return to the university. If she Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103879727877816655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-77425846985856494472015-01-27T06:39:13.347-05:002015-01-27T06:39:13.347-05:00Not healthy is an understatement. The fact he wait...Not healthy is an understatement. The fact he waits for her, watches her in class, and leaves her no space whatsoever, and when she tries to leave, it becomes a huge issue says, to me, this is possibly an abusive relationship to me. He sounds very controlling.<br /><br />While I avoid getting involved with students' personal relationships, I wonder if you could call , if you have one, the Trish from Texarkanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01537710252663530562noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-81818098111360062282015-01-27T05:45:05.015-05:002015-01-27T05:45:05.015-05:00Actually, yes, unless somebody else is normally ca...Actually, yes, unless somebody else is normally called for a psychiatric crisis on your campus and you want to go that route. And to be honest, it is only because you chose not to kick her out that I have not suggested that you should have. It is true that by simply giving her a hint that she should leave the way I have suggested, you would have been able to pretend later that she herself made Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103879727877816655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-40054522071452098342015-01-27T00:47:36.138-05:002015-01-27T00:47:36.138-05:00No one said I couldn't push her out the window...No one said I couldn't push her out the window, right? Only one door in and out. :/The Contemplative Cynichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02088570661592922436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-90574758675989341852015-01-27T00:46:49.188-05:002015-01-27T00:46:49.188-05:00Incidentally, I know what's going into my syll...Incidentally, I know what's going into my syllabus for next quarter. The Contemplative Cynichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02088570661592922436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-26798013472346585862015-01-27T00:45:22.452-05:002015-01-27T00:45:22.452-05:00Ideally, yes, if there were logic involved here, S...Ideally, yes, if there were logic involved here, Sally would have left the room. But it wasn't even that Silly was outside the classroom; he wasn't. She merely refused because he was out there... somewhere. We couldn't see him and nor could she. But she refused to move and wanted to be the center of attention. I don't think she was concerned about her safety. Since I wasn't The Contemplative Cynichttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02088570661592922436noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-2408609889395391732015-01-26T22:33:11.566-05:002015-01-26T22:33:11.566-05:00You may always borrow my staple gun, for HIM. (TWI...You may always borrow my staple gun, for HIM. (TWITCH!)Froderick Frankenstien from Fresnohttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11653942918068535424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-39778500558321872862015-01-26T20:38:59.457-05:002015-01-26T20:38:59.457-05:00Why didn't you make her move to the empty clas...Why didn't you make her move to the empty classroom instead of making the whole class move? After all, you cannot have such a disruption in class and it would have been reasonable to kick her out, with or without the option to just go next door. If she didn't want to risk meeting Silly outside, that would not have been your problem. However, if you wanted to be really helpful (or to make Monicahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08103879727877816655noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-72172792532341627472015-01-26T19:03:25.774-05:002015-01-26T19:03:25.774-05:00Gotten her out of the classroom by the other door,...Gotten her out of the classroom by the other door, but I'm lucly that way. <br /><br />Sheesh.<br />Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02906546940408742913noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-6778822421984954042015-01-26T18:01:16.181-05:002015-01-26T18:01:16.181-05:00Assigned a positive value to one, negative to the ...Assigned a positive value to one, negative to the other, flipped a one ruble coin, and shot the one that came up.Strelnikovhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12660962615198939441noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-2883226237165701608.post-45355601884688214842015-01-26T17:57:05.308-05:002015-01-26T17:57:05.308-05:00Facepalm... beyond that I got nothing.Facepalm... beyond that I got nothing.Rosencrantz Andor Guildensternhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05095512139776536635noreply@blogger.com