- Tell Calico and the rest of your team that you can call us "The Others." We're out here, reading, sniggering, cheering you on. But for me, I'm just not a joiner. When I think of something funny to say to the always great posts, I'll let you know. But I'm out here all the same.
- I sent many posts to RYS in the old days, but never got on the page. It warped my view of myself and so choose to just read along. I love Frog & Toad and the Contemplative Cynic the most!
- Some of us choose to keep our heads down, don't ya know? I've seen what happens when a newbie pokes his or her head up. It can get brutal. I don't need that kind of drama. But I read every day.
- I commented a few times when you first started your website, but it never resulted in any kind of a useful dialogue, so I stopped. I still enjoy many of the posts, but the comments always devolve. They are uninteresting.
- I don't know if this is what it's like for others, but I don't want to take a chance that my complaints might be recognized by a colleague at my terrible school. But I couldn't get along without you.
- I've often thought of joining your numbers, but I confess it seems like a lot of work. I cite Great Lakes Greta, who I admire more than I can say. She puts up a post fairly regularly and occasionally only get a couple of comments. They're always positive, of course, but I'd be heartsick if I wrote some of those delicious haiku only to get a roaring silence in response. I like a lot about what your writers discuss, and I rarely miss a day.
- I love your page but I choose not to join the fracas. I love it when one breaks out though.
- You would have more new participants if new people got treated better. There are numerous occasions where somebody new has been beat up pretty badly by some of your regulars. I'm not a conspiracy theorist like honest_prof, but there is a definite pecking order there, and you have a couple of alpha males (and one flat out misogynist) who makes the place unwelcome to new people, especially women.
- I think contacting the blog via email is reasonable. I don't always want to comment on the whole blog, but enjoy interacting with the moderators. (There is more than one, right?) In fact I've had some really interesting online conversations with Fab Sun about the issues on the page. I don't need to share those with the whole website, but nonetheless I love talking over issues in the profession with someone else who's smart and interesting and invested. In the few times I've taken part in the comments, I've been dismissed out of hand.
- Your comment sections are not welcoming places. I rarely read comment threads because the same 2-3 people try to co-opt the conversation every time. It's a quandary because some of the posts are so funny and good.
- I think College Misery is okay. It's not anywhere near as good as RYS, and that's because anybody can say anything they want. I often complain to the moderators, and that's my right as a reader. I wouldn't complain about label use (I've never even noticed them), but I complain often about posts that are so dull that they put me to sleep. I think a moderator should act as a gateway for posts, and only put the good ones on the page.
Wednesday, February 1, 2012
Real Goddamned Mail - "The Others" Edition.
Yesterday, Cal's comment about the group of CM readers who rarely post or comment generated about 40 overnight emails. While this is not the usual format of Real Goddamned Mail, I did want to share a few samples. (In three cases I've deleted some unrelated comments.)
Posted by College Misery Labels: real goddamned mail