Hello again.It seems that I broke an unwritten rule of The Misery. (Seriously, I checked the rules before I turned the comments off, and turning comments off was not expressly forbidden.) I had neither the time nor the emotional energy this weekend to deal with trolls, and I figured turning off the comments would let me wet my toes in the CM pool without getting my hair stuck in a jacuzzi vent and drowning.
Having seen some posts where the comments were turned off, I felt I could do the same. (I do now look back and realize that turning off comments seems to the purview of the RGM.)
I am not quite a neophyte. I found RYS about eight months before it went under and have been lurking at CM ever since it opened. I check it at least once a day, and often find solace here. Part of turning off the comments was sort of an homage to the way things used to be over at RYS. I'd go there to read the posts and then I'd mull over them. It was good to silently vent the spleen. I'm not saying we should go comment free, but perhaps the community would consider that sometimes (perhaps selfishly) we need to vent, and we just need (an anonymous community of) friends to listen and nod.
I'm really sorry if this set us off on a bad foot, but after the extremely raw and emotional exchange I saw in the Incident-We-Shall-Never-Speak-Of-Again where CM lost several posters who I sincerely enjoyed reading, I had no desire to get torn to shreds.
Please accept my mea culpa. As for the proper introduction: I'm young and in the academy trying to figure out my place over the next few years. I like hyperbole, so perhaps my tales will at times fall closer to "and the fish was this big" rather than scientific measurements. I was a super keener in my undergraduate, so I empathize with them at times. I don't understand flakes, and I have no idea how people only a few years younger than me piss on the opportunity to expand their minds.
-Maybelle
P.S. Let's keep the staple comments in Richard Tingle's post. No need to spill that topic over here.
Don't waste another second thinking about it Maybelle. Welcome!
ReplyDeleteI have a feeling, a little birdie told you to make this post.
DeleteI loved it. Welcome Maybelle. A great big Yaro hug for you!
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ReplyDeleteWelcome Maybelle! I like your avatar and am so glad you have joined us!
ReplyDeleteYay! New correspondent! Welcome!
ReplyDeleteAwesome cow. Welcome aboard!
ReplyDeleteIt is the perfect avatar. Maybe I should get an avatar. I've never got round to it.
DeleteBeing a cow, I always welcome more of my kind!
DeletePs- I never posted an intro, perhaps I should.
I think your initial post was right on the nose, which is why we all wanted to comment. You should take it as a compliment! Some comments-enabled posts don't get any replies at all.
ReplyDeleteI was a longtime CM user who got hounded so much that I quit coming around. This place is brutal on outsiders and newbies, and you all sure showed your stripes when Maybelle came along and didn't act just like you.
ReplyDeleteShe sounds smart and tough, though, good for her.
But you insiders are terrible to others.
This place is so tame compared to the majority of the internet, it always makes me snort with laughter when people go on about how ruthless the commenters here are. Put on your big girl panties or GTFO.
DeletePersonally, I was less worried about the comments being off than by the tone of the "apology" because I assumed it was an error in the first case.
Yeah I can't really picture what "hounded" might mean. We had a blow up about race a few weeks back, and about 2 years ago there was a big deal about whether or not having children is a good idea, but otherwise it's just harmless opinions. And wanting to talk about a good post on snowflakes' inability to procure their own staples is hardly "hounding." Again, it's pretty complimentary!
DeleteYeah, as the person who initiated the "children" post (that was one of my first posts, if not THE first post), I don't see what people are talking about when they say it's a harsh environment. It's not any worse than a family gathering...
DeleteP.S. Let's keep the staple comments in Richard Tingle's post. No need to spill that topic over here.
DeleteWith dictatorial tones like this in both her posts, is there any doubt she's destined to be the new Katie?
I suspect we're about to get an earful about non-compliance.
DeleteNot just terrible to newbies and others. Hard on EVERYONE. Ask Bubba or EMH. Or me. Or anyone that's been around here awhile.
ReplyDeleteWelcome, Maybelle. I like comments (and I like Dick Tingle's solution to the lack of comments on your initial post), but really, it's no big deal. I'm glad you're sticking around, and I, too, like the cow.
ReplyDeleteWelcome, Maybelle.
ReplyDeleteAnd just FYI, almost everyone here has "stepped in it" once or twice. It's no biggie.
People got huffy because we like to comment--commiserate, as it were--and were denied the opportunity. Lesson learned.
Welcome to the THUNDERDOME!
New word - commentsurate
DeleteWhoah. It's getting to be pretty bovine around here.
DeleteI meant new word - commentiserate
ReplyDeleteWelcome, Maybelle, from Vacaville. Your 'baptism by fire' isn't any worse than most of us have experienced on here, and we're happy to have new posters!
ReplyDeleteNow I want to go find the post about children since that's something I'm contemplating now.
ReplyDeleteApparently opinion is divided. What I got out of that discussion was that it makes a great deal of difference whether your institution will support your decision, i.e. hire someone to cover for you while you're gone. If it will, so your colleagues don't have to cover for you and work harder while you're off having a baby, everyone will be happy. If it won't, then your colleagues are likely to be less sympathetic to your desire to reproduce. The solution is to work somewhere civilized. I suggest Sweden.
ReplyDeleteI bet Swedish students staple their work.
DeleteOh, and you know what I hate worse than unstapled work? People who actually do the little origami rip in the corner with their TEETH, so that it's still damp and saliva-covered when they hand it to you.
ReplyDeleteAnything involving spit and paper creeps me out. I hate it when colleagues say they want to show me Stewie Snowflake's essay to get a second opinion, pull out a stack of papers, and then keep licking their fingers to get the papers to be less sticky as they thumb through them. My office mate is with me on this and actually purchased some kind of lubricating product that is designed to remedy this nasty habit.
DeleteI'm also grateful for the new self-sticking envelopes and stamps!