Sunday, April 5, 2015
A little more Unsolicited Advice
From a piece on the curious condition of "face-blindness"
"One time, when I was in college, I was in the ladies' room having a cigarette, because this was back when you were free to give everyone around you cancer. Between drags off my freedom-stick, I was complaining to this woman about a sociology class I was taking. She suggested that maybe I just didn't enjoy the subject, but I insisted, "The problem is the instructor is fucking boring! She doesn't know how to lecture!" Suddenly the woman turned white. Her tone immediately shifted into a snapping lecture voice that was all too familiar, and I realized she was the instructor. Again, the change in context was all it took -- her "bathroom conversation" voice was different from her "teaching a college course on sociology" voice, so I hadn't been able to recognize her outside of the classroom. Needless to say, I never went back to that class, and when I dropped it, I didn't even have her sign my drop slip -- I couldn't show my face around her ever again."
1) In general, you shouldn't talk shit about people. If you can't say something nice, don't say something at all [unless you are posting pseudo-anonymously on a wonderful blog specifically created for this purpose].
2) Just reading about you smoking makes me assume that you smell like ass.
3) It sounds like you could use your smoking breaks to study more. Maybe you would enjoy sociology more if you understood it. Here are some suggestions.
4) You have a condition. This means your world view is different than that of those around you. This does not mean you have a pass to be an asshole. Guess what? You are being an asshole. So own your condition. This isn't your parent's condition, or your friend's condition, or your teacher's condition. But your current behavior makes it their condition when it is outside of their control. You know something though: it is inside your control. You are the only one who can do something about it. So create a series of coping mechanisms, start frequenting support groups (in person or online) and stop being such a goddamn asshole.