It is midterm time, that means a dawning realization that there are consequences, both positive and negative" for applying the reading and doing the work - or not. I am sifting through the "not fairs", the " you grade too hards" and some of the typical stuff until I got to a student who does pretty good work but got a C+ on their last paper because they missed a major concept within the paper, other than that it was a pretty good paper.
Said student had. B+ and would have maintained a B+ even with said paper if they had bothered to take the midterm. Instead they skipped it and sent me an email which stated they were dropping the class because of the last paper. This puzzled menso inemailed the student back encouraging them to stay in the course and offered additional help because they had shown great improvement within the class. Boy was that a mistake.
Said student blasted me in a reply email, telling me they were calling me by my first name because I pontificated and postured within the class and didn't deserve respect. They then went on to say I was wrong to give them the grade I did because I did not specifically outline the specific concept I had expected them to discuss and they should not be expected to go in depth in their paper, just answer the questions asked. They then said what peeves me the most, "this is the FIRST class I have had this kind of trouble in, I have had PhD's look at my paper and they said it was fine." They gave me a nice closing of they were going to run and tell mom that I was so mean so I got grounded.
I reached out to this student initially because I thought they were worth helping only to have my hand bit. I then responded with the typical jargon of college level expectations, going in depth into the topic, and reiterating an already rebuffed offer for help. I get discouraged that this is the reaction I get when I push students to excel and offer help so they can do it. Does anyone have a way that DOES work so I can stop beating my head against the wall while maintaining some form of academic integrity?