New York magazine has an article about the expectation that you will grease all the hinges and open all the doors for your kids to get them a leg up in life -- and what it does to the kids themselves.
Read it all: Is ethical parenting possible?. The title is a bit overblown, but then the kids get that from somewhere, don't they?
What parents are really telling children with their constant intervening is that there’s no way for them to succeed on their own, says Harold Koplewicz, a founder of the Child Mind Institute. “The message to the kid is, You aren’t good enough.” He compares these parents to “fixers,” who illicitly manipulate outcomes for their clients. In their effort to build their children’s success, parents may actually be short-circuiting their self-esteem, and stunting their self-efficacy, making them unable to tell the difference between the things they can accomplish in the world, with the application of hard work and native ability, and the things they cannot. Jason Stevens is somewhat blunter. A fixing parent can make a child, he says, “crippled. Or entitled. Or both.”
It's the world that's wrong, Bobby.